This is from Otto Rank:

“The patient must learn to live, to live with his split, his conflict, his ambivalence, which no therapy can take away, for if it could, it would take with it the actual spring of life. The more truly the ambivalence is accepted the more life and the possibilities of life will the human being have and be able to use.”

The real problem  — the unwillingness to accept this ambivalent condition of life, saying No to necessary suffering — ‘a refusal of life itself.’

Living with ambivalence. …similar to Freud’s famed definition of a successful therapy: afterwards the patient can replace neurotic misery with common unhappiness.

In the end, it is not work but love, the love of another human being who accepts us for who we are, that makes life bearable and meaningful.